It's nice to see stuff about bi men becoming more accessible; I know a lot of bi guys and most of them are closeted. I think embracing a bi identity means working through a lot of fear of social stigma (you're 'voluntarily' stepping out of the top of the hierarchy & you can't go back), but also like....... feelings a lot of men have internalized about what it means to have sex with a man & especially what it would mean to love a man romantically. I've also always liked this essay on phallocentrism & bisexuality (Note: NSFW images at the link). But I probably have a different perspective as someone who's identified himself with lgbt/gay/queer culture since, basically, puberty vs guys who spent their formative years, and most of their time, in the straight world.
Re: consent, with the "yes means yes" model, I know there's the stereotype of like, erotic Mother May I, but I haven't really experienced that, or situations that felt super-contractual. But there's also like pretty specific stuff I dislike, so I have to initiate those kinds of conversations proactively, which I think creates a different dynamic, I think.
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Date: 2023-10-28 05:51 am (UTC)Re: consent, with the "yes means yes" model, I know there's the stereotype of like, erotic Mother May I, but I haven't really experienced that, or situations that felt super-contractual. But there's also like pretty specific stuff I dislike, so I have to initiate those kinds of conversations proactively, which I think creates a different dynamic, I think.